I understand that not everyone who reads this blog will purchase the books I publish. Not purchasing my book in no way diminishes my affection for you and it will not result in discontinued patronage to your blog or hard feelings. I don’t even require an explanation as to why. Obviously I am over the moon when people buy my book but that’s another story entirely. Even if we are close, even if I’ve bought your books, it’s not expected so please don’t stop talking to me to avoid a confrontation. There isn’t going to be a confrontation and there is absolutely no reason to apologize. Your friendship matters to me more than anything else.
If I submit to your magazine and you don’t want to publish that piece for whatever reason, don’t, no hard feelings. While I do appreciate feedback and obviously a yes/no answer so I know what’s what, an explanation is not required it’s your vision by all means be true to it. Even if you have asked me to submit to the magazine personally, even if you’ve begged me you are not obligated to publish anything, hell you don’t even have to read my entries (though that would be a little strange if you went through all that trouble to ask me lol). Will I be pissed? No, not even a little. Honesty is my preference but I do understand how scary it can be to navigate other people’s feelings and sometimes we avoid others for fear of awkwardness or retaliation but it’s not necessary it hurts my feelings a lot more when you avoid me.
What if you write an unflattering review? Or give an unflattering critique to one of my poems? Should you duck and cover then? No that won’t be necessary you are entitled to your feelings and opinions but I do ask that you be respectful when leaving comments. I am only human so I do get my feelings hurt from time to time. I do realize that no matter how much you enjoy my work there will come a time when I write something that leaves one or both of us feeling more than a little disappointed. I hope that when that day comes you won’t give up on me entirely. I try to post every single day, I am not a miracle worker, some days just suck and some days I suck. Some day I imagine I will post something out of character because as a writer I am continuously experimenting, pushing boundaries, and challenging myself. Sometimes I write from the perspective of characters, sometimes even villains so if ever you are confused about my personal views after reading something you’ve found unsettling just ask me and I will sort the fact from the fiction. Obviously I prefer constructive criticism, it’s not okay to be mean. I love my blog and I want it to be a safe place for everyone who visits.
If I leave a comment on your blog that you are confused about please ask I have dyslexia and social phobia so I find the comment section terrifying (probably why I don’t leave more of them)! I do not leave negative comments, I try to always keep things positive and encouraging. I sometimes overshare and I do apologize for that!
While I doubt I am exactly the same online as I am offline given the aforementioned social phobia I still don’t think it is okay to be a bully. I do my best to be kind and respectful and I hope that you have always found me to be so.
Do you accept awards?
I accept and cherish the sentiment behind awards. I cannot tell you how happy it makes me whenever someone shares something I’ve written or promotes my blog but I don’t post awards on my blog anymore. I did when I first started but I try to keep the focus of my blog on poetry. I do periodically post links to others blogs though and I do have a BlogRoll which is subject to frequent growth spurts.
Do you do interviews?
Sometimes but I am really shy and I find it difficult to talk about myself in that way. I reveal myself through poetry. I had a really hard time writing my bio section!
Can I reblog your posts?
Of course you can!
Can I quote you?
Ask me about the specific line you’d like to quote. Chances are I will say yes with credit. Please send me a link so I can visit the entry as well =) As for the photos I have taken there are scant few of them (most of the images on my blog come from Google note the credits, use at your own discretion) but you are welcome to use any that I have personally taken. Always ask though because my husband/daughter have also supplied some of the photos on this blog.
Can I post poems in the comments?
Yes of course XD
Can I email you?
Yes you can so long as it isn’t spam haha
Do you do collaborations?
I have done some collaborative story-writing but I don’t have experience with collaborative poetry.
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Would you give a line at booguloo@live .com? Are you a musician?
I am not a musician =) You mean like a quote or a poem or?
You could always rave about your book on my site, if you’d like. 🙂
If you wanted to advertise my book it would be an honor Kev! I haven’t learned how to market or rav about myself yet, I am very shy
I understand. I’ll try to come up with something. I will probably need to download your book cover and copy the synopsis and buy links if that’s ok with yourself… Let me know. 🙂
What does buy links mean? I can send you the book through email if you like free of course
Links to retailers (like Amazon) where people can buy your book. If you want to do that… I’ll do a review for you. 🙂
> I do realize that no matter how much you enjoy my work there will come a time when I write something that leaves one or both of us feeling more than a little disappointed. I hope that when that day comes you won’t give up on me entirely.
Or as I like to think, as a reader, the book or post or comment was simply not written for me. Which is great. There’s a lot of other people out there.
That is a great way to look at it! Thank you so much XD
Hello. I’ve been searching over your site (this one AND MLMM) to find a way to contact you directly. We need to get in touch. This is regarding the Friday Music Challenge run by Jim Adams. Can you please leave me a note or let me know how I might leave you one? I’m Melanie – https://sparksfromacombustiblemind.wordpress.com/ . I hope to hear from you soon. Thanks so much!
I am sorry I have been away. I have just moved across country and have been working intensely. I know there is a lot to be done at MLMM I need to recruit members and get my own Wordle up and running again. It’s been crazy. Would you like to take over the position?
Yes. In fact, Jim has said his last MLMM Music Challenge was his last. He wants me to step in starting next Friday (Feb 4th) if that’s when he was scheduled to post. Moving is always stressful, and I don’t blame you for feeling a bit rushed. Let me know what information you’d like, and what I need to do (guidelines, rules etc) to make the prompt a good one! Thanks ! I look forward to having a fun experience with this! I hope you enjoy it too! Melanie (aka Sparks)
First I need your email address (the one associated with WordPress) so I can send you an invitation if Jim hasn’t already sent you one. Once you have accepted the invitation you will be able to post/schedule (same as any other WordPress blog). I usually schedule for 6 am GM +1. The main thing is to schedule at the same time whenever possible for the sake of consistency. Some people like to schedule several posts to keep on top of things. If you know you will be absent ahead of time and you don’t have anything scheduled in advanced to cover that time you can ask one of the other members to substitute or even invite members to fill in. It is pretty laidback I would say and I know life stuff comes up unexpectedly so it is nothing to stress about if you do have occasionally absences. Your post should include the song title, the name of the artist, lyrics, an audio clip (usually people use Youtube) and Mr Linky. You can also include (optional), as Jim does, interesting facts about the song. Perimeters for the challenge if you would like to include any. A music video and/or movie clips featuring the song. Chords. And anything else you think might be interesting and/or relevant.
Here is the site for Mr. Linky https://www.misterlinky.net/. Jim has created a little tutorial for Mr. Linky I can forward to your email. My email is firstname.lastname@example.org